“Not enoughness” – I know that’s not a real word, but it’s a condition created by mainstream media and perpetuated by the current social constructs. Many in society have been brainwashed to feel this way, which then opens people up to be monetized. The desire to mimic entertainment idols and sports icons, and to copy and emulate their style is the driving force. I’m not bashing the so-called influencers, but this social behavior of comparing yourself to others is definitely proving to cause many people to feel like they need to have the most current designer bag or a particular hairstyle, to avoid FOMO – fear of missing out (formerly “keeping up with the Jones’). Not identifying what you really want and need, prevents you from living authentically.
This is where taking the time to know who you are and what’s important for you is essential in navigating the constant push and pull of modern commercialism. Even your smartphones and your Google searches plot against you by sending you ads and message prompts to nudge you towards a purchase that you were Googling. Blame it on the algorithms that seem to know you better than you know yourself.
As spooky as it may seem, the trick is to know whether or not you know for yourself. Do you really need it, or are you being pushed by your emotions to buy something that you don’t necessarily need? This same concept applies to you and your body, health, and overall wellbeing.
It’s tricky to recognize and know that when something weird and unexpected happens, like a pain in the lower back, or a weird chest pain, it is not something to panic about. When you take time to develop the confidence and ability to know with absolute certainty, that it’s not life threatening, you’ll see that instead, it’s your body’s way of letting you know that you need to look at what changes are currently impacting you more than you realize.
The Ancient Greek aphorism, “know thyself” is the first of three Delphic maxims inscribed in the forecourt of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi, according to the Greek writer Pausanias. The two maxims that follow were, “nothing to excess,” and “certainty brings insanity.”
The condition of “not enoughness” doesn’t stand a chance against one who is certain of who they are, and who lives according to their highest values. During these challenging times, there is so much conflicting news and misinformation, that in order to navigate the quagmire of people’s opinions, supposed expert opinions, and medical opinions, trusting your intuition and knowing who you are, is of the utmost importance.
Become the master of your fate and captain of your soul, a powerful concept from the concluding lines of Invictus. It is by facing your fears and learning to build yourself up from the inside, that will ultimately lead you to a life you love and desire. Stop comparing yourself to others, and instead discover your authentic self and honor it. By connecting with your body and owning your true “body language,” you will build confidence and know without a shadow of a doubt, what feels right or wrong to you. Take moments to pause and breathe in your life. In doing so, your future self will thank you and your loved ones will too.